The key thing to remember is perseverance! You'll be surprised at how many resources will open up for you once you start telling hunters you want to get started. However, be prepared for a lot of flakes...sometimes you just have to get out there and do it by yourself.
As for gearing up...things are slowly starting to become available for us women in the duck hunting section. Prois and She-Safari are two big companies that make women's hunting clothing. While both heavily favor upland and big game, they are starting to expand the duck hunting lines. Take a moment to check out NorCal Cazadora's blog (http://www.norcalcazadora.com
. She writes a great blog, and does extensive gear/clothing reviews.
I found a lot of great help from just hanging out at the check station at my local refuge. The DFG staff and other hunters were extremely helpful. Also, start watching the posts in your state forum. Ask for help during the off-season, and maybe even suggest a hunt together with DHC (Duck Hunting Chat) members in the area.
And, as always, feel free to contact me if you have any questions! I started late 2009 duck hunting. While I only have 1 solid season under my belt (and that was in California), I'd be glad to share what I've learned so far!
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