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Postby O_E_J » Mon Aug 22, 2005 9:31 pm

Hope I am not breaking the rules but here goes. My wife and I have talked much about hunting. She has gone as far as taking the state required hunting classes and tests and has her "blue card". She enjoys the fact that I love hunting and go often and spend many hours and $$ doing it. My question is this. How do I get her to go with me? I have asked and she states she needs practice but everytime I go practice and invite her she says that she is embarased and does not want people to watch her learn to shoot a shotgun. I have offered to take her out in the desert, just us, but she is still hesitant and embarased.

Any ladies in Utah want to teach another one to shoot a shotgun?

I already have both my daughters very interested and going in the right direction so it is not a "cant find a sitter" type of deal. Any input or help would be great.
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Postby gunman » Mon Aug 22, 2005 11:22 pm

I'm glad you posted this, as I too am having the same problem, she likes to shoot, but not when others are around, and she shows intrest in waterfowl hunting but I can't get her to practice, I get the same senario as you do, The only thing I can think of is to find another female who is an avid shooter and get them to spend time together......but that in itself is a problem as i don't know any other women who like to hunt! :toofunny: So ladys, whats your point of view??????? -Chris
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Postby gsphunter » Tue Aug 23, 2005 8:11 pm

Just be patient guys, as I'm sure you already are though. My girlfriend was the same way. She was also embarassed to first few times we shot. I just explained to her that everyone started somewhere. There was a single person that could naturally hold a gun perfect or shoot perfect scores every time.

Something that helped me too was that there is a guy that shot in the olympics out at the range I go to. Now my girlfriend is not one to ask for help in doing stuff, due to her fear of looking stupid. The best part about this guy, was that he didn't ask if she needed help, he just started helping her because he new that she needed help.

Now she is more comfortable shooting around other people, probably partly because she just did it one day and got it over with and secondly because she had a good instructor to coach her into breaking clays. In fact we drove out to the range today to shoot a round, but the range changed their hours on me. :thumbsdown:
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Postby HuntingWife » Mon Aug 29, 2005 4:49 pm

I read this thread about a week ago and I have been thinking long and hard about a good solution. Unfortunately, I haven't come up with anything brilliant, but I will say this: OEJ, it sounds like your wife has the interest about hunting in her, she just needs (a lot) of encouragement. IT seems like the best approach would be to continue to try to get her to go out with you alone somewhere where y'all can practice shooting in private. Don't get discouraged if she says no or has an excuse, keep asking. Just because we gals turn you down a time or teo doesn't mean you should stop asking us. If she knows that you mean it and you're gently persistent, she'll come with you eventually. Just be patient!

It would be nice if she had another woman to go with, but that's a very individual thing. Some women would like to have another female (or male) around, but lots of us do better when we're one on one with someone we trust. Good luck!

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Postby buckmark » Wed Sep 21, 2005 10:38 pm

Coming from a womans thought, are you guys being to intimidating? The town that I come from the gun club has a trap club and women are interested in trying trap, but not if the male members are going to be there. The problem is that some men, not all, are to busy showing a person HOW it should be done instead of teaching, and letting the person find their own method. Everyone knows that women like shopping, take her shopping for her own hunting accessories (gear bags, waders, guns, shells, camo pattern choices). As far as practice, lying in the blind, laying near a slough, walking a tree row is just fine for practice. Let her become her own individual, not a mini you, what works for you may not work for her. As for the women out there go for it I know a lot of women out there who can out shoot a man anyday, even in there first times of shooting. Even me and I am a pretty poor shot sometimes. Also make sure that you are shooting a gun that fits YOU. I have a 870 with a youth stock on it and it fits so much since i put the youth stock on it.
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Postby huntingwidow » Wed Nov 02, 2005 9:34 am

anychance she would get on here to chat with us? I'm just starting too and dread the thought of having to shoot in front of my dad. My hubby isn't a problem, I'm comfy infront of his family too but my dad is going to tell me everything i'm doing wrong (or rather everything he thinks I should be doing) so it makes it a bit intimidating. She's welcome to come chat with me if she wants.
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Postby MrsJumpshooter » Sun Nov 13, 2005 11:23 pm

OEJ, If you can get her to chat with us maybe we can help build her confidance and give her some pointers.. Once she is comfortable, if she would like we could get together and shoot some clays.
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Postby O_E_J » Tue Nov 15, 2005 9:49 pm

Update for everyone...

A couple weeks ago we went shotgun shopping and she picked one out. I ended up buying it for her as an early b-day present. We are going to go shoot it tommorow, mainly for the basics. She actually asked me to go! Also, my sister in law was wondering what is so neat about hunting, and now we are taking them out for their first hunts this week.

I got her the waders (nice and warm ones, cabelas super mags should do) I also picked her up a nice 4 in 1 parka, gloves hat and all the goodies. We are heading out Friday afternoon to see if we can get someone into this crazy thing called duck hunting.

I am very excited and can not wait.
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Postby O_E_J » Tue Nov 15, 2005 9:50 pm

MrsJumpshooter wrote:OEJ, If you can get her to chat with us maybe we can help build her confidance and give her some pointers.. Once she is comfortable, if she would like we could get together and shoot some clays.


Thank you MrsJumpShooter, I will let her know. I can see it now... the two of us fighting over PC time to check out the forums...
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Postby MrsJumpshooter » Wed Nov 16, 2005 1:15 pm

:welcome:
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Postby 1southernbuster » Fri May 12, 2006 11:03 pm

OEJ
hope things are still going well. personally i hate it when my husband tries to teach me something even if it is something i want to learn. maybe i and easily intimidated or maybe i am just too competitve and dont want to believe that he is better than me!! i think it is the latter! give her time be patient and let her "win" once in a while. good luck!
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Postby LaRedneck » Fri May 12, 2006 11:14 pm

:welcome: ABOARD, hopefully you can't actually help some of us men as we tend to post more here that the women :laughing:
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Postby Female Goose Hunter » Sun Jul 15, 2007 11:50 am

i dont know i never had embarrasment issues when going hunting, i warn ppl before hand if it aint movin i aint shootin it, lmao i can shoot that puppy flying but sitting or anywhere close to resembling sitting im screwed blued and tattoo'd but as i was saying ya ever try going out just the two of you? get her started with you then gradually work into group hunting.


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